How to be happy with science.
Wondering how to be happy when you are always worrying? Why are we always worrying, why are we not happy?
In short because of Evolution. The brain has be hard wired to look for problems, find problems, solving them. The Amygdala is the part of the brain responsible for our survival. That’s how we have survived extinction so far and that is why your mind is always restless scanning for problems.
We will never ever stop the brain from doing what it has evolved to do for thousands of years. We will always worry and have negative thoughts because of this reason and that is OK. That means we are human and not an agent from the matrix.
Of course this all means that Model of happiness of working hard, Finding success and then be happy is just plain WRONG.
But here is the good news. Just like you exercise your body to be healthy you can exercise your brain to be happier.
Research shows that you have to be Happy First and then the rest will follow.
Because Happiness comes from the inside. Happiness is a choice.
Luckly science has already identify ways we can achieve Happiness.
Extrinsic motivation refers to behavior that is driven by external rewards such as money, fame, grades, and praise. This type of motivation arises from outside the individual, as opposed to intrinsic motivation, which originates inside of the individual.
So what can you do? Well Do not compare your money, fame, grades, and praise to others. Instead do things because you love it personally and feel passionate and don’t expect a reward.
Do things for you.
Here are some more good news.
Only 10% of your happiness depend of your circumstances. 50 genetic set point which you don’t control anyways and 40% are you intentional activities. That’s right folks, the things you do influence greatly on how to be happy and there are activities the research have shown can elevate your happiness.
Here are just a few of the things mentioned on the book.
Take a brisk, 20-minute walk per day. A recent study showed that brisk walks outperform a test group on anti-depressants and another test group doing both walking and taking anti-depressants.
Journal for 20 minutes about one positive experience from your day. In another study, couples who did this exercise together were 50% more likely to stay together after three months — but it’s been proven to elevate the happiness of singles, as well.
Commit a random act of kindness per day. This Has the greatest impact on an individual’s happiness levels. If you can do five nice things for other people every week, you’re likely to feel better about who you are.
Research has shown that Unplugging to take time away from things and recharge, elevates happiness as well.
Find your flow. Immerse yourself completely in an activity giving it your full concentration so much that you loose track of time.
Meditation: A team from Massachusetts General Hospital looked at brains scans before and often individual meditated and found that the parts of the brain associated with compassion and self awerness grew while parts associated with stress shrank.
Five Gratitude’s: In 2003 Roberts Emmons and Michael McCullough asked students to write 5 gratitude’s, 5 hassles and 5 events for 10 weeks. They later found that the students who wrote the 5 gratitude’s were happier and physically healthier.
As you can see. It’s the little things that bring you happiness. It all starts and ends with you. You can do this.
If you want to learn more check out the book.