This week I was in one of my mood swings. I can go for longs stretches of time thinking everything is awesome, especially when I go to the dentist and she gives me the gas. When that happens I feel connected to the universe and that nothing can go wrong…true story. Sometimes though I feel like asking myself What the hell I’m doing? Just like this week and it’s on those times the you have to be extra careful. If not your mind can start racing and the next thing you know you find yourself indulging to much in whatever vice you have when your feeling down.
As someone who has adapted to live with a rare condition, I know how the fog of insecurity can cloud the mind sometimes for weeks at a time. In the past when that used to happen I would lock myself in my room and try to figure my way out to clarity. It turns out that doesn’t work well at all. I would just go on circles and then feel guilty because I was felt stupid for not figuring out solutions. It took me years to understand and learn some principles that would allow me take a different approach when I’m not feeling “motivated”.
Do not force yourself to take action when not motivated. Studies have shown that will power is limited. If you’re not feeling in the mood to complete a task that you set yourself up for the day, then don’t do it. Instead take to time to analyze what event happened that maid you feel unmotivated. Example, sometimes I don’t feel like writing or doing marketing research. If nothing comes out of my mind for 20 minutes while I’m in front of the computer then I just don’t force myself to write. Instead I would list events that lead me to be in that particular state of mind. The majority of times I find the reason I feel tired are usually after taking care of unscheduled errands. If after a few days of listing events you see a pattern then schedule around that. It could be anything. Maybe your a morning person and you should just wake up one hour earlier, maybe you eat something when you shouldn’t.
Research out to mentors or support groups. If you’re mind is racing because of high anxiety and indecision just remember, your situation is not unique. People before you have already gone through that fire and back again, go talk to them. When I was feeling most insecure about my facial paralysis I reached out to someone who has my same condition. We were pen-pals for years, before I actually met her in The Moebius Syndrome conference in 2010 and have been good friends ever since. Now I realize that everyone has some crutch whether physical or mental and I choose not to feel down.
Ask yourself Why? 5 times. Always go to the root cause when you find yourself over thinking a situation. This is a method used in problem solving scenarios and it’s called…drum-roll…the 5 Why’s. Basically it involves exhausting the reasons for a problem until you find the root cause. I Companies use this method to define, measure, analyze, improve and control situations that involve human factors or interactions. Let’s say that your worrying about your life. Why? Maybe you have too much debt. Why? Your not good managing money. Why? You don’t save money. Why? You don’t earn enough money Why? Your job does not pay much. At the point you can decide either to get a raise or get another higher paying job.
Focus on what you can control. Don’t waste your time in things you cannot control. So much effort is wasted blaming others, because is the easy excuse not to do anything. Biggest time wasters are blaming people for your problems, the government and the past. Get away from toxic people as soon as you realize it, change yourself first before even trying to change the government and as for the past, well there are thousands of YouTube videos of “Let it go” from the movie Frozen.